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Wednesday, November 30, 2005
Mulch Soup
"Oh, the joy" thought Vinay upon hearing the news.
"Oooooh, the fiber!" exclaimed his colon at the exact same moment.
I felt a moral obligation to tell Vinay that this would be awaiting him upon his return from work. Shortly after announcing tonight's menu, Amiya said (and this is a quote), "It's a surprise soup! He'll never know it's mulch!" Um, do you think she's maybe heard me saying that when I sneak tomatoes or eggs into a dish?
In any case, hurry home, Daddy! A thick bowl of mulch soup is waiting for you!
Tuesday, November 29, 2005
The Polar Express



Witness the trauma we put our daughter through last night. You'd think we played The Godfather or a Stephen King movie for her. But no, it was The Polar Express. That's right. A charming, computer-animated, G rated movie. There was finger-gnawing, mouth-covering, pleas for explanations and even nose-picking. And this was all within the first ten minutes of the movie because that's all she let us watch before it got to be "too 'cary!!!" And so, if you all could take up a collection and send us money for more of the Disney Princess videos, we'd be much obliged. We have to fast forward through about half of those as they can be "too 'cary," too, but at least there's no nose-picking or finger-gnawing when Cinderella graces the screen.
Sunday, November 27, 2005
Quick Pics
Just two quick pics for you to see the new things in our life. The first picture is not just a towel and a pair of jeans on our hastily-made bed. It's actually Amiya, a towel and a pair of jeans. This is the new game. She covers herself up with a towel or a blanket and pretends to be a baby bird who has to hatch out of her shell. Once she pops out she says, "Good mornin' Mama bird!" and then goes back into her shell to break her way out again.
This morning we were treated to a happy Amiya during our morning meal. She not only compromised and had waffles instead of the promised pancakes (how could Mommy not have buttermilk in the house???), she also tore "coupons" for the Katrina families and then turned said "coupons" into a moustache and a wristwatch so she could be just like Daddy.
Saturday, November 26, 2005
Turkey Day
Thursday was a great day in the Gupta home. It was the first Thanksgiving I've ever spent without extra people around - either in Green Bay, France (just once) or Urbana (just once). I was feeling a little trepidation going in - who wants to cook a turkey and all the fixings for three, no, 2.5 people? I wasn't so sure about it - but I did and it was delicious. It wasn't a whole turkey, but the breast and it was mighty fine. The mashed potatoes were good (who needs turkey when there are potatoes with butter and milk?) and the stuffing stole the show (for me at least). Vinay liked the rolls the best and Amiya was gaga for the canned cranberry sauce. I know, you'd think with my cranberry fetish it would have been homemade, but my hubby is a stickler for canned cranberry sauce.The morning was
spent with Mommy in the kitchen and Daddy and Amiya tooling around in and out of the house. Then a lovely, late lunch was shared and all three curled up in one big bed for a family nap. Nothing like a tummy full of turkey and a toddler's knees in your back to lull you into a deep sleep and jolt you awake with alarming regularity. After nap Amiya bolted out of the bed to begin decorating the tree. Mommy and Daddy had set it up the night before and Daddy did a masterful job with the lights and the ribbon. Amiya was enthralled from the very moment she woke Thanksgiving morning. She wanted to do it "now." We used this to our advantage and told her repeatedly that she needed to be a good listener if she wanted to decorate the tree. As you can see, she did a fine job. Daddy helped hold her to get the high branches and Amiya took care of the lower ones all by herself. The evening ended with a quiet walk around the neighborhood and yet another viewing of The Disney Princesses Holiday video. Who would have thought that the daughter of Christy would be into the Princesses? Ah well, what can be done?And the best part of the day for me? I finally got my feather on Amiya's Thanksgiving Turkey. It took a little prompting on Daddy's part, but Amiya came through in the clutch. (See the naked turkey way up top all the way to the final turkey on Thanksgiving Day.)
Wednesday, November 23, 2005
It's been so long....
since an update. I know and I'd like to promise it won't happen again but that's not something I can stand behind, so I won't do any such thing. Suffice it to say that we've been busy, busy, busy and this gets pushed to the end of the list.Amiya and Daddy headed to Busch Gardens on Saturday to give Mommy some much needed time at home without a 3' tall shadow. They looked at animals, took a ride on the sky cable and Amiya even got up on stage and danced with Dumphrey the Dragon. I'm still in a bit of shock about it - she's always been intrigued but frightened by this feathery beast. Not so on Saturday, apparently. Having Daddy nearby bolstered her confidence and she talked with Dumphrey and even blew bubbles for him.
The rest of the weekend was pretty standard with Amiya somewhere between Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde. When in a Dr. Jekyll mood, she either wanted to play Princess or a new "vawiation" of the o-rolling game. When it's time to be Cinderella, Amiya wraps herself in her blanket and sings and dances. Mommy is always the Wicked Stepmother (again, trying not to take it personally) and Daddy is assigned the role of the Fairy Godmother complete with blanket dress and measuring cup wand. I'd post a picture of Vinay in his get-up, but I like my marriage so you'll just have to use your imagination. He's got the bibbidi-bobbidi-boo down pat. The part of Cinderella is played so authentically by Amiya that we weren't quite sure what was happening when she wrapped herself up once, ran for the bedroom and started to cry. All at once we understood that we were in the pivotal scene where the stepsisters have torn her dress and Cinderella dashes off to the garden for a good cry.I'd also like to report that Amiya is trying to turn Mommy's hair gray at the playground. We were, for a few months, content to play on the slides, the swings, the rope bridge. Now we must climb on all the things made for kids with longer legs and better coordination. It's hard to stand by and watch. In some cases, it might even be considered neglect - one climbing apparatus is wound like a tight spring and when she's at the top and lets go her chin goes thunk, thunk, thunk, thunk, thunk as it hits all 84 coils on the way down. So, a happy medium is what we're looking for. She needs the autonomy to try new things and see what she can challenge herself to do. I'd like her to come home with no more scars or bruises than when we arrived.
And what's Mommy been up to? Well, the last cake for our cake class. It was supposed to be a wedding cake of sorts with cascading flowers and pillars. That's so not Christy. I opted instead for a combination & variation of a tiled cake I had seen in the Wilton Yearbook and a fondant formed turkey as the topper that I had seen at www.cakecentral.com . I'm pleased with the results and equally happy that the class is over. This is stressful stuff and while I originally thought I might like to do big cakes, drop cookies might be more my style! This has just been too many cakes in a row, too many vats of Crisco and a whole lot of stained fingernails. That being said, I'd love to do cakes for people
who want them and I am looking forward to Amiya's birthday cake. I feel like I've got the confidence and the skills to do it now.And finally, what you've all been waiting for -
recent turkey feathers go to:
Uncle Jon
Uncle Andy
Uncle Mikey
Coucou
and Grand-mère
That's right, still no Mommy. But, if I've been awarded the role of the Wicked Stepmother it's pretty much the same thing, right?
Friday, November 18, 2005
Turkey Update
Ravi bhayia
Ms. Lauren
Ms. Dana
Ms. Kim
Tyler
Baby Katie
and
Mr. Matt
Go back and read through all the feathers - notice anyone missing?
I'm trying not to take it personally! ;-)
Thursday, November 17, 2005
The Morning After
a hard day of traveling. Had it been just me or just Vinay,

things would have been easier. But add a toddler to any situation involving small spaces and quiet voices and tension runs high. So, it was a hard day of traveling.
Amiya finally went to bed about midnight Monday night - four hours later than her normal bedtime. (Are you wincing along with me?) She woke up about 8:15 when her little friend Aubrey dropped in while her Mommy went to the doctor. That's a pretty normal wake-up time for Amiya. (Still wincing? I am and it's Wednesday night now.) All was well, fantastic really, until Aubrey's Mommy picked her up. And then, well, there just aren't words, Friends.
Bucked it up, I did, and headed out to the fire station for our Moms Club tour. I knew I didn't stand a chance of fending off the ferocious tantrum monster but I knew that a combination of her other 3' friends and getting to sit in a real fire truck might just do the trick. And it did. It was even a bit surreal. When has this child ever, ever stuck to me like glue since she's been mobile? When has she ever, ever put her head on my shoulder for more than two minutes if it wasn't a stalling tactic to prolong

cuddling and avoid bedtime? And yet, she did. She only let go of me long enough to take a seat in the fire truck. I'm not sure that she really enjoyed it, but she did it. Both pictures are of her in the truck - if you look closely at the second, you'll see eyebrows, forehead and bangs. Maybe next year she'll be tall enough to see out of the truck. I had hoped for a pic of her with the firefighter, but it was not to be. She must be missing that gene that propels all straight women towards men in uniform because she wanted nothing, absolutely nothing, to do with the hottie* in all the gear.
Ah well, there is always next time.
I think it's important to note that she had regained her form properly by the time we went to lunch with her 3' friends. I think our little circle is about to be banned from Moe's restaurant, but until the make it official, bring on the toddlers!
*Please know that I used the word "hottie" only because it's still in the mid-80s with a lot of humidity. I felt for the man. Poor guy. Really. What were you thinking, anyway?
A Weekend in Rogers
We were in Rochester, New York for the weekend to see Vinay's brother, sis-in-law, niece and nephew. Amiya had been in a state of constant agitation prior to our trip - any talk at all was of going to Rogers. Rochester is a mouthful when you're two, so Rogers it was until she heard the pilot say it as we touched down. Magically it turned to Rochester.Imagine, if you will, the joy of seeing your cousins who you haven't seen in almost a year. Imagine the happiness of a two-year old with two doting teenagers. Imagine a constant grin on the face of our little angel (that's complete sarcasm on my part). It was a great weekend - nice enough weather in Rochester that we were able to be outside and lots of time to
visit with family. Amiya loved playing with Nisha didi and Ravi bhayia (her cousins). She spent time at the park, on the swings, on Ravi's skateboard, making Nisha climb stairs and freaking out during the movie Chicken Little. She also spent an evening in the company of many pre-teen girls dressed in beautiful Indian clothing and showing Mom and Dad the hand anytime we ventured to see what they were up to. It's never been more clear that Mom and Dad are just accessories to this glam girl's life. Nisha didi, Ravi bhayia and her aunt and uncle are far more interesting than we. I'm not sure if they were prepared for the level of energy which is Amiya, but they handled it admirably. The only time Mommy got any cuddles was at night when Amiya insisted on being my second layer of blankets. And Daddy, well, poor guy. He got nothing. Nothing at all. It got to such a level of cousin-neediness that when Nisha left for soccer practice Amiya was a
mess of tears and quivery lips. When we tempted her with chicken nuggets from Wendy's, she absolutely wouldn't go without Ravi. And upon waking Monday morning to find absolutely no one in the house but boring Mommy - you can imagine the chagrin.And an unrelated side note:
check out the mustache. Amiya discovered
cream cheese while in Rogers and is in loooove! It's not really that much of a stretch given her love for cheesecake, but she'd never encountered cheesecake's simpler, savory cousin. Now that she has, there's no going back.
Thursday, November 10, 2005
Wedneday, November 9, 2005 Waveland, MS
Today Christine finished sewing curtains with fabric we had. Tom hung the rods and they are up. We'll finish the rest at home and ship them down.
The deadline is passed for blue roof tarps and clean up sign up. If you haven't asked for help by now you are on your own. Those people who have not yet come back are SOL. Many people 10 weeks after Katrina are still living in tents waiting for Katrina trailers. We worked at POD today giving out supplies. People come up and beg for blankets and pillows. Towels are a very hot commodity, as are wash clothes. Same for dish towels, pot holders and all the other things we take for granted. It is so sad! We feel like we have done so much and yet we hardly see a dent in what needs to be done.
The men cut 15 big boards up into little boards and turned them into window sills in Hope Haven windows. They are looking so good. Friday the Social Services people will not be here so we are going to hit it hard and then head out on Sat early. We have 1300 miles to home and hope to get in late Sunday night.
Tom got a jolt (mild) from some electric lines that were lying near the shed he and Dennis jacked up and moved back onto it's foundation. Terri and I had both handled those lines last week when we cleaned out that shed and children had been playing out in the yard several times this week. The director called the electrician and he came and checked it. Two 110 volt live lines were laying there. We could have been fried! Most of the people living here are dealing with the same thing.
Today a truck pulled up and dropped off dozens of brand new blankets for people who come into Hope Haven. Instead of handing them out to those that need them the Social Services people were grabbing them left and right. We think it should be about need not greed. Some of them needed them, some did not.
Everything here, hand outs, free food, all will be done in two weeks and people will be on their own. Thanksgiving day is "it's over day". If you could see this area you would be appalled. Most of these people don't even have FEMA trailers yet. They are going into the winter living in tents. We are told that it is snowing in Arbor Vitae and we'll think of these people here as we throw another log on the fire.
T, C, D and T
Wednesday, November 09, 2005
Tuesday, November 8th, Waveland, MS
Hello Everyone,
We are nearing the end of our two weeks here and while we feel very good about what we have accomplished we are aware of how much more needs to be done. Not just here at Hope Haven but across the gulf states. Katrina cut a swath 10 miles deep by 45 miles long.
We have some interesting observations about the people that live down here, black and white. We have certainly had some of our prejudices (sp?) blown right out of the water. How wrong we are to judge a book by the cover.
Terri worked at the Point of Distribution Center again today with Katie. She feels that there are more volunteers here than there are needy in the food line today. We are sure why. Some charities are folding up and going home and perhaps people are starting to get a grip on the reality of this and of course, so many have left. Dennis, Tom and Jerod drove around and helped people cut up trees. They helped one handicapped lady that was trying to rake up the garbage and litter in her yard so that FEMA would deliver her trailer. Her walker was standing by her side and she could barely work. Her cat which was killed by Katrina was laying in her yard to be buried. We have talked that there is more wood here than all of us on Spruce Road would need in a lifetime for our wood burners and fireplaces. All of the quilts I brought are gone and I had a woman today asking for quilts as they have none and the nights are getting cold here. It broke my heart to tell her that we have no more. I worked on valances again today but didn't quite finish them all. We have a security guard here 24 hours a day because Health and Social Services has food stamps and things here and the building could easily be broken in to. They work 12 hour shifts and we have taken these nice young men under our wing.
Our letter is short today as we are tired. Everyone here is so grateful for the help that you are providing through your donations.
T, D, T and C
Inventory Control
And today's turkey (besides Amiya) goes to her best buddy Gabe.
Tuesday, November 08, 2005
Monday, November 7th, Waveland, MS
We had another busy day on Monday. Terri and Katie worked at the Point of Distribution center handing out necessary supplies. Hot items are Calamine lotion, bug sprays, cold meds. Terri estimates that about 90% of the blankets, pillows and clothing are used and most are pretty thin and sad looking. Right now there is an overabundance of toothbrushes and toothpaste. Everyone is equal in the line. You may have been well off or poor before but now everyone needs everything. The food tent served a vegetarian stir fry with peanut sauce. We are so amazed at these amazing young people and the quality and amounts of food they produce.
Dennis and Tom cut up trees at two different homes yesterday. They need to cut them up in to logs small enough to be able to muscle them up to the road for pick up. Tom's chainsaw has an 18" blade and he couldn't cut through most of these trees without three cuts. The lumber yard has reopened with basically windows and doors. The men needed seven boards and had twelve to chose from. They replaced a broken window in the house and have started replacing window sills.
Jerod worked at the POD (Point of Distribution) driving the forklift and unloading semi's full of supplies. We are again amazed by our two young fellow campers. They are such hard workers and they are living in a little tent sharing our doorless bathroom and our meals. Their parents can be very proud of them.
I sewed curtain valances yesterday and made a dent. There are about two dozen windows to sew for and I am not quite half way done. I brought fabrics from my home stash and they are working out perfectly. It was like it was meant to be.
We have handed out all of the quilts we brought with us. We will need to do more so for all of my fabric stashing quilt friends please consider doing twin bed size quilts for this center. We need cotton batting and we need them machine quilted as they are washed often and tied quilts will not last. These children come to the center with all kinds of hygiene issues and bed wetting problems and so bedding is washed often. We think that another group is doing a sheet shower for the center. Some of you have asked what you can do. The kitchen here has no pots, pans, baking sheets, utensils, drawer dividers... all of the things that we take for granted.
November 7th, 2005
For my birthday I was treated to this and this:

I know the picture would be nicer if the gleaming silver bowl were in the mixer, but I've used it so many times that it's hard to find five minutes when it's clean! Vinay also bought me a dozen beautiful red roses - what a man! Amiya treated me to a dozen red-faced tantrums - what a girl! I'm not sure she gets the concept of "gift" because these didn't bring me much happiness and I'd return them if I could.
My birthday dinner was perfect. I'd had a severe pregnancy headache all afternoon, so I told Vinay that all I wanted was for Amiya to be in bed and us to have a quiet meal without cajoling just one more bite of vegetables out of a toddler. I sent him out for a turkey sub, a bag of Doritos and a root beer. Just what a pregnant lady wants I tell you! I had thought of some delicious Thai food or maybe even my Italian favorite eggplant parmesan, but in this (still, annoyingly) hot Florida weather and with a headache, a sub with a cold, cold root beer is just the thing. And, despite all these cake classes, no cake for me. Amazing what being around the stuff so much does to your desire to have it. I need to take an ice cream class, a tortilla chip class, a pizza class, etc. Every class but a salad class and I'd be set.
And the turkey goes to....
I'd make it blink for you if I knew how Nisha, but I don't! Just know that Amiya loves you!
Monday, November 07, 2005
Turkey Feather Update
Friday - Super Grandma
Saturday - Super Grandpa
Sunday - Babaji
Waveland, MS Monday, Nov. 5 & 6, 2005
Terri and I attended services at the little Baptist church across the street on Sunday morning. The service was held outside in the parking lot and we were warmly welcomed by the congregation of about 100. 90% of their people are gone. We again were impressed by the upbeat, positive attitude we encountered. The choir was lovely and the preaching was moving. We were so glad that we attended.
We also wanted you to know about the role of the Red Cross down here. They have small trucks that drive a set route each day delivering water, juices, snacks and hot meals along the way. We met people from Oklahoma and (Yahoo!) Wisconsin. They drive their route and stop in front of every house where people might be working and toot their horn. Anyone can get a meal from them and it makes it great because you don't need to try to go to the "Rainbow Cafe" for a meal. So many here are gutting out their houses and have nothing to cook with or on. We know the Red Cross is doing many more things here as well so your donations do make a difference.
New Orleans, LA November 4, 2005
It's Friday night and we are just back from New Orleans. It was our relax day today and we used it to do laundry up in Kiln, Mississippi. Only a few washers and dryers working in one of the two Laundromats in Hancock County. We also found the "Broke Spoke" bar but it was closed. We did write our messages to Brett Favre on the wall along with hundreds of others. We also found what is left of his mothers restaurant.
We headed to New Orleans in the afternoon and found that the southbound bridge of I-10 into New Orleans was partially blown away. The north bound bridge is used for both directions. We had cafe au lait and cafe noir at the "Cafe DuMonde". We also had begneits. To die for! Then we met a friend from northern Wisconsin's daughter and passed on four quilts made especially for people she knows who lost everything. This lovely young lady led us to a quiet little street on the edge of the French Quarter where we ate shrimp, red beans and rice, greens and andouille sausages. We strolled down the same street weaving our way through piles of garbage and discarded refrigerators that smelled nasty. Almost everyone in the hurricane zone lost their frig's because the power was gone for weeks and food in them spoiled. We ducked into a "jazz" club and listened to a live group for a bit. Very nice to see that New Orleaners are working to take things back to normal.
On the way back to Waveland we found a Lowes open in Slidell, Louisiana and bought a shower curtain and curtain rods for the Hope Haven House. You do not know how luxurious a shower curtain is until you until you don't have one.
We are already feeling that we just won't have enough time to make a dent and we are thinking ahead to how we could come back down and do more. This situation will not be remedied in a few months. It will be years before the damage is repaired and twenty years before trees look like a normal landscape.
We had our first ignorant comment today in New Orleans. A man called out to us "it's time for all the carpetbaggers to go home" when he saw our plates on the truck. Our thought was "Better to keep your mouth shut and be thought an idiot than to open your mouth and confirm it."
Thanks for all the words of encouragement. Love, T, C, D and T
Friday, November 04, 2005
Waveland, MS Thursday, November 3, 2005
We had another great day yesterday. We've been asked how we found this job. We contacted the Red Cross and Habitat for Humanity and did not get replies and in fairness to them they are swamped. I then went on line and got into the state of Mississippi web site. They had a link for Disaster Relief help.
Thursday, the men painted the finish coat on the activity center room walls. Then they repaired a storage shed and made it water tight. Terry and I tackled another shed that was the lawn and tool shed. When we opened the door we nearly flipped. What a mess! Lawn mowers, tools, blowers,dozens of paint cans, oil, boxes of nails and house supplies and all mixed in to a muddled muddy mass. We debated, wait and work up our courage or hit it and get it over with. We hit it and cleaned it out. Most everything gets heaped on piles next to the road and then bull dozers come in periodically and doze and load garbage. The men found a hardware store and bought a few doors that they can install at the house. We had a young couple show up from Washington state with a tent and they will be here for a month or so. The six of us were invited for Spaghetti at the director of the centers house. It was a lovely evening and a nice break for he and his wife as the stress of dealing with day to day challenges here are heavy. The WalMart reopened here in a tent and has only basic groceries. A major step.
We did not take photos but will get many today. I have handed out all but a few baby quilts. I gave the three quilts from Cheri and Barb to three boys, grandsons of Hope Haven house, whose home was totally lost. They were so happy. The Red Wagon group quilts are being delivered Friday as we are headed towards New Orleans and looking for a laundromat. Have called DeeDee's daughter but she has not called back yet. Today is our rest day because we will work All day Sat and Sun in the center. The social services people will be off and we can work uninterrupted. We have a little southern Baptist church across the street that is totally gutted. We can see studs inside and nothing else and they are having service Sunday morning. So we are going. We are told that this is a black church by choice and I asked a little elderly lady at the meal dome if we would be welcome. She assured us we would.
We are doing this because we can not because we are looking for pats on the back, Nor is it our intention to put weight on those who can not be here. Everyone can help in someway. A local teacher was in yesterday and we helped her chose toys for her class. People here are so angry with our government relief plans but they all say that the people of America have been wonderful. We say a hand painted sign on a pile of rubbish that said "Thank you for helping us" It was directed at the volunteers coming in on this highway. This has made us aware of how much we take for granted. Look for a large report with photos of New Orleans tonight.
D, T, T and C
Thursday, November 03, 2005
Turkey and then Turkey
Today is the day Daddy comes home. Ask me how many times we've talked about this in the 1.5 hours this child has been awake. Don't get me wrong, I'm thrilled that he's coming home and I'm thrilled that she is so in love with her Daddy. It's just scary that I'm actually trying to initiate conversations about Clifford or Elmo instead of talking about going to the airport yet again!
And finally, today's turkey feather goes to Grandpa! Like Grandma's feather, absolutely no hesitation about who she loves!
Two Waveland, MS Sites
Rising from Ruin
FEMA Forgot Waveland
